Posts Tagged ‘freedom’

“The world is filled with talented poor people. All too often, they’re poor or struggle financially or earn less than they are capable of, not because of what they know but because of what they do not know.”

Robert Kiyosaki, “Rich Dad, Poor Dad”

I have had a copy of “Rich Dad, Poor Dad” for a long time, read it when I bought it, and haven’t picked it up to read again until this past week.  As I read through this book at this junction in my life’s journey, so much of it is making more sense now than it did in my first reading.

When I came across the above statements in the book, the reality of why so many people trudge along never finding financial success or freedom hit me like a ton of bricks. When we shut down the learning process, and we close the doors to learning something new, the opportunities to grow and expand our wealth are reduced greatly.

From my viewpoint, there are two things that will cause someone to change course from where they are to something better: desire or pain.

Desire is the strong emotional component that can drive someone forward, pushing through obstacles, and will only stop when it reaches its destination. Wait. Let me rephrase that. A BURNING DESIRE will push people to see a goal reached. Now, I have the desire to own a Nissan 370Z. However, that desire is not a burning desire so I don’t put much effort into attaining that goal. When it comes to my life goal, to inspire one million people to Dream BIG and LIVE their dream, that is my burning desire.

Pain is also a strong motivator to change. For some people, the pain comes too late to make the necessary course changes to LIVE a fuller life. For others, the pain of being where they are in life becomes so unbearable, they do what it takes to change the course of their life. The memory of that pain motivates them to push forward and crush the obstacles that stand in their way.

Unfortunately, the majority of people endure the pain, never seek to flame the desire within themselves, and don’t seek out what they need to learn to make that one change that will push them toward a more rewarding financial journey.

When you take a look at where you are at today, are you satisfied with your place in life? Does your financial balance sheet give you a sense of security for your future? If you answered yes to both of those questions, congratulations. If you could only say yes to one of those or no to both, what is keeping you from reaching your goals? Make a conscious decision to learn what it will take to make your goals happen, and start making the changes necessary.

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“When in doubt, tell the truth.”

Mark Twain

When you hear someone begin a statement with “Honestly…” or “To tell you the truth…”, what passes through your mind? Every time I hear someone utter those words, a voice in the back of the head says that this person makes a habit of lying. Everything that person says from there on out, I question the validity of their words.

I truly believe honesty is at the core of freedom. A person who lies consistently weaves a web that will entangle them and cause far more harm to themselves. There is the stress of keeping stories straight, remembering what you said to this person and that one. Lying affects you physically, emotionally, spiritually, professionally, and financially. When you begin to tell the truth, confess your “secrets” or those things you have been hiding, you begin to free yourself from the negative affects lying has had on you.

There was a point in time where my life was crashing down around me. My professional goal was being undermined, my dreams being crushed, my first marriage in despair, and I began to walk down a dangerous road to fulfill my emotional needs. I hid what was truly going on in my life. When I decided to take back control of my life, I opened up and shared with my new community of friends what was going on without hiding anything. I found support and help to work through my divorce and I was able to heal the hurts because I was truthful. Later, when others came to accuse and attack me, it fell on deaf ears because my new community of friends had already been made aware of the situation. Being honest and truthful saved me from being entangled in a huge web of deceit and lies.

Jack shares the story of Marilyn Tam. She was being approached by CEO Phil Knight from Nike to oversee their concept stores and begin stronger emphasis on marketing of their apparel line. Prior to the interview, Marilyn began to research what Nike already had in place and noticed that there was no consistency in the quality of their merchandise, which was not in alignment with Nike’s brand.

When she met with Phil Knight for the interview, things started off really exciting as they talked about the launching of the concept stores. During the interview, Marilyn was hesitant as to whether or not to bring up the issue she found. After 2 hours into the interview, she finally spoke up about her findings and how the concept stores would probably fail if the issue wasn’t fixed first. The interview came to a quick end after she spoke up, and she returned home.

Two weeks later, Marilyn received a phone call from Phil Knight, and he offered her a job as the first vice president of apparel and accessories. After the interview, he went and did his own research and came to the same conclusion. Marilyn’s first goal was to bring consistency to the apparel lineup that matched Nike’s image before launching the concept stores.

When you are prompted to tell the truth, do it sooner than later. Truth will win out and will have successful relationships as a result.

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(Our daily journey of the last 64 days of 2011 is centered on the principles found in Jack Canfield’s book, “The Success Principles: How to Get from Where You Are to Where You Want to Be.” In his book, he encourages his readers to begin teaching others these principles. I would highly recommend that you buy a copy of the book and join us on a journey to a better you.)

“Every high achiever has a powerful team of key staff members, consultants, and helpers who do the bulk of the work while he or she is free to create new sources of income and new opportunities for success.”

Jack Canfield, p. 287

The journey to success is finding ways to allow you to focus on your core genius (as we talked about on Day 39). In order to do this and create success, you need to find the areas where others can be of help so you are free to excel.

Where do you need to add team members? Start by making a list of all the tasks that are part of your business or that take time out of your schedule every week. These can be small tasks such as responding to emails, making copies, cleaning the bathroom, etc.. Include tasks related to your civic or volunteer work, too.

Now that you have the list, what are the three things on that list that you do brilliantly? What are the three things on the list that bring in the most income for you or your business? When you combine these two groups of activities, you have identified the areas you need to focus your time and energy. So make a plan to delegate the other items out. It may take time, but as you continue to do so, you begin to have more time and energy for your core genius. There are plenty of people who enjoy doing the tasks that you don’t like.

For those of you who are business owners and entrepreneurs, you need to seek out key staff members for your business. People to whom you can delegate tasks and projects so you can be free to focus on your core areas. Even if you are a one-person business, you need to begin looking for a key person to whom you can assign tasks. When you start building your team, you will see growth begin to happen.

The other area Jack covers is your advisory team. We all can’t be experts in everything, so begin to surround yourself with advisors you know, like, and trust. You should think about having a banker, a lawyer, a high-net-worth certified public accountant, an investment advisor, a doctor, a personal trainer, a nutritionist, and a coach as part of your advisory team. They can help provide you with key ideas, help you plan, and make more informed decisions.

As you build your advisory team, be clear as to what you want from them. What type of relationship is it going to be? Is it going to be a paid relationship?  Be clear about this from the outset. Always look for ways you can help your advisory team as well. Make a plan to stay connected to them on a regular basis, be it monthly, quarterly, or semiannual meetings. Remember, this is your team, and you want to build trusting, long-lasting relationships with each team member.

As you continue to toward success, you will find that having the right team members in place will greatly enhance your journey. Begin taking the steps today to put your team in place.

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(Our daily journey of the last 64 days of 2011 is centered on the principles found in Jack Canfield’s book, “The Success Principles: How to Get from Where You Are to Where You Want to Be.” In his book, he encourages his readers to begin teaching others these principles. I would highly recommend that you buy a copy of the book and join us on a journey to a better you.)

Our little church in Granville Center, PA, had a small bus we used. The bus could only go 60 miles an hour due to a governor that prevented it from going any faster. Much like that bus, we have self-imposed limiters on our belief system. We need to find our where our beliefs are imposing limits, and break through those barriers.

The limiting beliefs that we have can come from a variety of sources. Most of them will come from parents, grandparents, and other close role models we had growing up. They may be placed on us by teachers, coaches, and even our religious/spiritual influences. How many of these limits sound familiar?

  • Money doesn’t grow on trees
  • I’m not…(smart, attractive, young, rich)…enough
  • I’m never picked to…
  • Boys don’t cry
  • Girls don’t act that way
  • Women aren’t allowed to do that
  • Can’t you do anything right?

Those statements limit what our minds think we can achieve. We need a process to break down those limits and free ourselves to do more.

Jack has a four-step process to overcome the limits we have placed on our beliefs. Step one is to identify the limiting beliefs you want to overcome. Make a list of them and identify one that you want to overcome. Step two, determine the limits this belief has put on you. Step three, “decide how you want to be, act, or feel.” And the fourth step, write out an affirmation that permits you to act, be, and feel like you want.

Here is a sample template Jack gives:

  1. My negative/limiting belief is _____________________________.
  2. The way it limits me is _________________________________.
  3. The way I want to be, act, or feel is _______________________.
  4. My turnaround statement that affirms or gives me permission to do this is _______________________________.

It is not enough to just do this simple exercise once. You must repeat the affirmation several times a day for a minimum of 30 days to change the way your mind thinks. It is through the repetition that we are rewiring the mind, freeing it from the governor that has been in place for a long time. If you will do this consistently, you will believe differently.

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(Our daily journey of the last 64 days of 2011 is centered on the principles found in Jack Canfield’s book, “The Success Principles: How to Get from Where You Are to Where You Want to Be.” In his book, he encourages his readers to begin teaching others these principles. I would highly recommend that you buy a copy of the book and join us on a journey to a better you.)

One of the lessons that I learned years ago is that forgiveness is not admitting to the person who wronged us that what they did was okay. Forgiveness is all about releasing the hold we allow the person who wronged us to have on us. Forgiveness is being released from that hold and freeing ourselves from all the emotional bondage.

Jack shares a process to help work through the steps of completing the past so we can move forward to a better future. He calls it “The Total Truth Process.” This process has 6 stages with each stage being given an equal amount of attention. If doing this in person, seek permission to do this first. In some situations it may be better to write a letter.  Whether you deliver it or not depends on the situation.

Here are the stages:

  1. Anger and resentment –I’m angry…I’m fed up…I resent…
  2. Hurt–It hurts when…I feel hurt that…I feel disappointed..
  3. Fear–I was afraid that…I feel scared when….I get afraid of you when…
  4. Remorse, regret, and accountability–I’m sorry that…Please forgive me for…I didn’t mean to…
  5. Wants–All I ever want(ed)…I want…I want you to…
  6. Love, compassion, forgiveness, and appreciation–I appreciate…I forgive you for…Thank you for…

The goal of this principle is to free yourself from the negative energy that keeps you from being productive and enjoying our journey through life. When we forgive, we release the bonds the wrongdoer had over us. It allows for healing and possible restoration of a relationship. We are able to move forward in our life without the restraints.

Who do you need to forgive in your life so you can move forward? Begin taking the steps to free yourself by completing the past.

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(Our daily journey of the last 64 days of 2011 is centered on the principles found in Jack Canfield’s book, “The Success Principles: How to Get from Where You Are to Where You Want to Be.” In his book, he encourages his readers to begin teaching others these principles. I would highly recommend that you buy a copy of the book and join us on a journey to a better you.)

Looking Out

Posted: July 14, 2010 in Leadership, Wednesday Boost
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A small sparrow managed to make its way into our store.  It kept flying along the rafters in the showroom and the warehouse area.  At one point it landed on one of the few window sills in the store and squawked at a couple of other birds who came to look in on it from outside.  It fluttered up against the window thinking it must be able to get out.  I approached the bird hoping to catch it so I could set it free outside.  But fear set in, and it flew back up into the rafters.  Even with an open door and the other birds chirping trying to encourage it to fly out, it stayed in the rafters.

I wonder how many people are just like that bird?  They look out the window and see so many others who are flying free in the world.  They shout to the others on the outside and may even express an interest in joining them.  But soon someone from the inside comes along and scares them back away from the window.  Perhaps a family member who casts doubts on the dream of something better.  Maybe a close friend who tried to leave the building once and came back inside because of a bad experience.  Their peers within the building all gossip about how bad it is out there and even though inside the building is a drudgery, it is much better in here than out there. So it is back to the rafters even though the door is wide open.

Perhaps you have been looking out the window wishing you can fly free like so many others.  If the door is open, then take the opportunity to fly out.  You don’t have to do it alone. There are many others out here who have taken that step, who will encourage you and help you as you enter a whole new world.

If all you are looking forward to is Friday, then it may be time to see if the door is open.

One of my biggest motivations for launching my own business is freedom. I want the freedom to do what I want, when I want, where I want, and with who I want. I want no limits on what I can accomplish.  When I hear the challenge of thinking outside of the box, I don’t ever want to be in the box.

There are many people who would say that they would love to have that freedom, too.  But something is holding them back.  There is a fear that gets a hold of their thoughts.  Perhaps it is the fear of falling or the fear of failure.  These thoughts can paralyze any movement towards freedom.  It is the brave that will push that fear aside and not let it win the battle.  It is the brave who will advance as they recognize that falling may just be part of the journey towards freedom.

There is a cost to freedom as well (I am trying to remember how Zig talked about it not being a cost but had a much more positive spin on the concept. But I am drawing a blank at the moment.).  In order to have the kind of freedom that I mentioned above, you will have to discipline yourself.  You will have to manage your time, your finances, your activities so that you can reap the rewards of your efforts. You are already reaping the rewards of your efforts now.  If it is not resulting in  the freedom you want, then maybe it is time to change where you are putting your efforts.

The cry for freedom is ringing!  Are you brave enough to answer its call?